How to Attract Women
ATTRACTING WOMEN
A lot of younger dudes ask me about girls, and my advice is always to focus on yourself. When you develop into a successful, jacked, spiritually and self aware dude you won’t find yourself wanting of women.
That being said, here is some advice that girls find attractive that you can aim to incorporate into your life.
BE MUSCULAR: Self explanatory... More muscle sub communicates sexual characteristics that the cavewoman brain selects for. Indicates that you can protecc in times of strife. Also shows that you are a man of discipline and commitment
Have a vision that you work towards daily: Nothing is more attractive to a girl than a man on a mission, doggedly pursuing that which he believes in without fear. Whatever this is can be up to you, just make sure you have something.
Be unapologetic in your views: Not everyone will like you... this extends to women. Being honest as to what you believe will attract those aligned with your tastes
Treat them without special preference just for being a girl: No one likes to be pandered to.
Have boundaries that you enforce: If you don’t stand for anything, you’ll fall for everything. It’s not attractive to a girl to be a pushover.
HAVE FUN : No one wants to hang with the guy who can’t laugh at himself or takes themselves to seriously
You are a man, be masculine: She will be feminine, the polarity attracts. This comes with it the responsibility of taking on the burden of masculine tasks
Do not whine about your lot in life: A good girl will support and help you succeed, no matter what stage of life you’re at. She just wants to see you earnestly making the best of what you have, with a smile on your face. You are INDOMITABLE
Your piece of shit car does not mean you can’t get girls... : This is a societal limitation you place on yourself. If girls judge you for the quality of your possessions then they aren’t who you want to hang around anyway
Girls receive and multiply the energy you give to them : Be the rising energy that breaks her out of her day to day monotony...
DON’T BE ON YOUR PHONE: You should expect the same from her. Goes for all social situations really
BE COMFORTABLE WITH EYE CONTACT: Much energetic information can be communicated without saying anything...
BE SPONTANEOUS : One of the reasons my parents marriage fell apart was because my dad was too focused on the bills, saving money, being serious. Sucks the fun out of life when everything must be logically analysed.
HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE: If you make a girl the entire focus of your life, dropping everything to be with them all the time, then they will not respect your attention, or feel like they have to do anything to deserve it.
TAN: No need to go overboard, but sun exposure not only makes your skin look better, it leads to higher testosterone which of course is inherently masculine and attractive to girls.
HAVE HOBBIES: This enables you to share your life with her. You can give her knowledge, teach her new things. Additionally, an air of mastery within an environment is attractive.
Within the relationship, don’t become the people pleaser. If you do everything to become the perfect boyfriend, while it has good intentions it results in them feeling supplicated to, killing attraction.
BE VULNERABLE: This is a result of becoming happy with who you are. You can honestly be yourself and love without any asterisks.
ENGAGE IN YOUR COMMUNITY: Networking will always benefit your social relationships. If you know the bartender at your local, or can introduce her to people that can help her out, Must mean you’re a standup guy that she can trust.
This is not a complete picture, and I will likely write more about this soon. For now, enjoy and meditate on the information here.
Artwork by Daniel Gerhatz